When you’re single for too long, these five solutions will help you find love. And you’ll be so happy with your new guy, you won’t even remember the single life (or you will… but you’ll be too in love to want to dwell on it).

1.) Give yourself a year to find true love

What do you do when you have a goal or a dream? You write down a game plan and a series of steps to take to make that happen, right?

It might seem strange to do that when you want to meet someone, but it’s a good idea because you’ll feel clear and calm and organized in your quest to find true love. It’s better than being sad that you’re single and wondering why you’ve been single for too long (because you definitely think that too often).

When you’re single for too long, here’s one thing that you can do: give yourself a year to find true love. It’s enough time to not stress out about a bad date here and there. It’s also a realistic timeframe. Chances are, within a few months or even a few weeks, you could go on an amazing first date or meet a guy through friends or work who is absolutely perfect for you. It’s all about being open.

2.) Believe the cliché: you’ll meet him when you don’t think that you will

Sorry about this… but the cliché really is true. When you’re single, you have friends and family tell you that “you’ll meet the right guy when you don’t think that you will” or “when you’re not expecting it.” It’s tempting to roll your eyes when they give you this advice. It’s tempting to think that they’re wrong and just trying to be nice but, well, they’re just not helping.

Why not believe them? You definitely know couples who met when they thought that they would never find anyone who was perfect for them. They were expecting to be single much longer than they ended up being. It worked for them and it can work for you.

Cliches can be really comforting, particularly when you’re going through a hard time. A cliché is a reminder that things do work out and that everything is going to be okay, and that’s important for you to remember right now.

3.) Listen to your friends and family because they just might know what’s good for you

Being a single girl means getting advice from friends, family, and even strangers. Everywhere you turn, from websites to magazines to even love songs and movies and novels, you’re getting some kind of advice about meeting the one and finding love.

It can be exhausting and even frustrating. You can wish that everyone would just stop talking to you about the fact that you’re single. But then you might not get the advice that you really need to hear.

When you’ve been single for too long, it’s possible that your friends and family have some advice that will help you find the guy that you’ve been trying to meet. Maybe your best friend was single for ten years bef1ore getting married, or maybe your entire friend group is still single but feels optimistic about meeting someone soon.

Ask the people that you love for advice and what you should do with your dating life. You might not want to and you might want to focus on other things, but if you’re serious about finding love, there’s no reason why you can’t focus on it.